Tatiana Khodakova
Who among us has not had to face the problem of not loving ourselves?
Most often, the problem of not accepting our body and ourselves develops during the period of intrauterine development and up to 1.5 years. When a child is born, the mother is the whole world for him. But it happens that the mother does not feel the needs of her child, does not satisfy them (when the mother is not in touch with her needs, she is not able to guess the needs of the child). And then the child can develop a feeling of his own insignificance and self-rejection, the chest — the center of our dignity — closes.
What can you do now to heal from not loving yourself:
✅️ Start each day with practice:
Warm your palms by rubbing them well against each other. Place your warm hands on the center of your chest, say good words to yourself, find what you are grateful for.
✅️ Realize that you and your body, as part of your personality, are unique, and you will not have another. How could you take care of your body and yourself? Start noticing in your body not only what you don’t like, but also what you like.
✅️ Imagine that your child, whom you love unconditionally, came to you with this problem. What would you say to him then? How would you support him? Stand in front of the mirror, look into your eyes and see the look of your inner child there. Say these words to yourself, your inner child. Say it out loud, looking into the eyes!
Our eyes are like windows in the house, through them we see the world, communicate with the world, receive information and express something outward.
If there are problems with the eyes – poor vision, tension, pain – all this can indicate an increased level of control.
And if you notice that you constantly want to rub your eyes, squint, you blink often – this may be a signal that it is difficult for you to look the truth in the eye.
What to do?
Start with restoring CONTACT with the BODY and TRUST in it. Gradually, having restored TRUST in your BODY, you will be able to feel SUPPORT in it, and this will give more STABILITY and increase the feeling of SECURITY. Over time, you will be able to build contact with reality and increase trust in the world.
Right now, you can start by CONSCIOUSLY TRANSFERRING ATTENTION from your head to your BODY several times a day and noticing your bodily sensations, and then doing a small action that will add bodily comfort to you. For example, drink some water, stretch, stand up and walk, sit steadily, etc.
Loving yourself starts with small things. Take the first step — and you will be on the right path
Photo by Kateryna Hliznitsova
Translated by Maria Zayats
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Татьяна Ходакова
Практический психолог
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